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“It is not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?”
Henry David Thoreau
We’ve all been there. “Busy.”
So many of our conversations seem to start and end with “Hi, how are you?” “BUSY!”
Having been a really “busy” person who felt overwhelmed by days and weeks and years of running around in its clutches, it’s time to re-examine this four-letter word.
Often, we toss this word around without much thought. (Maybe we’re too busy to examine it further!)
If you’d like to see how often this word pervades our daily life and in what context, do a keyword search for “busy” in your email inbox and sent box and witness the results.
Meanwhile, Three Key Observations about “Busy”:
1. Busy-ness Is a Word Laced with Self-Importance
“I would love to attend your thirtieth birthday party, but I’m just too busy.”
How do you feel when you call someone or they finally call you back, and their constant excuse for not making the time is that they were “busy?” Busy can sometimes unknowingly imply “you are not one of my priorities; I had too many other things going on, and I’m really important for having all this ‘stuff’ to do, while I imagine you must sit around at your house all day tapping your fingertips on the counter.”
Let’s face it—chances are, most of us have jam-packed lives, many demands on our time, and lots of stuff to do. So, we get it, you’re “busy.” But guess what? So are we! When you use your “busy-ness” as an excuse, you unwittingly devalue the fact that everyone else is busy too.
2. Busy Means Something Is Running Your Life, and It’s Not You
“I’m so sorry I haven’t called you back until now, I’ve been soooo BUSY!”
To be busy insinuates that you are caught in a whirlwind of commotion, a hamster wheel of activity that seems to never end. Think about it—in most cases where “busy” is often used, the context is often that busy-ness is an excuse given in an attempt to apologize for missing out on something that you wish you could have done.
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